The Rev. Dr. Kenneth H. Saunders III
Greeneville, TN
The 24th Sunday after Pentecost
November 8, 2026
Wisdom of Solomon 6:12-16
Psalm 70
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Matthew 25:1-13
Some of you know what it's like to wait for someone who says they'll be there in five minutes… and then an hour later, you're still waiting.
Kelly and I were married in October of 1990. We were supposed to be at the church the evening before for the rehearsal. Kelly and her parents were there; the attendants were there… The readers and acolytes were there, and the priest was there… Guess who wasn’t there… Yes, you guessed it, I wasn’t there...
I was coming to the rehearsal with my parents, but because of my mother and sister, we were delayed – we were late… really really late… This was the time before cell phones were an accessory for everyone. We couldn’t call and tell those who were waiting that we were running late… but not just late… we were running late, late.
This notably freaked Kelly out a bit... So much so that she began to be consoled by her father… she began to think I had literally left her at the altar. We finally showed up, some 30 minutes after we should have been there. We rehearsed through the tears and we are still happily married some 36 years later.
Apparently, even in Jesus' day, people had trouble keeping a schedule too!
In our modern worldview here in the United States, in our society and in our culture’s need for urgency and promptness, the story Jesus tells in Mathew’s Gospel seems a bit unsettling. There are ten bridesmaids waiting for a bridegroom. They've done what they were supposed to do. They've come together, they've brought their lamps, and they were ready for the celebration.
But then something happens. The bridegroom is late. Not just a little late. Not running fifteen minutes behind schedule. He was late, late… He's so late that everyone falls asleep. And finally, when he arrives, five of the bridesmaids realize that they haven't brought enough oil to keep their lamps burning. The other five are prepared. So the unprepared bridesmaids scramble to find more oil, but by the time they return, the door is already shut.
And when they ask to be let in, the bridegroom responds with what seem to be rather harsh words: "Truly I tell you, I do not know you." That's not exactly the ending we would expect to hear from a wedding story.
I have to admit, I find myself sympathizing with the five unprepared bridesmaids. After all, they showed up on time. They were invited. They were waiting. They just weren't expecting the wait to be so long. And honestly, I have some questions for the bridegroom, too. What took him so long? Was he waiting on his mother and sister while they did their hair and makeup?
And why is everyone expected to be ready for an arrival and nobody knows when to expect him? But I think that's exactly where Jesus wants us to begin. The bridegroom is late. And what happens during the waiting matters.
In our culture, we tend to think of waiting as wasted time. We wait a lot in our culture…We wait in doctor's offices, in traffic, in checkout lines, and we sometimes find ourselves waiting for people who have no sense of what it means to be on time.
We live in a world that doesn't like waiting. We like urgency… We want things to happen immediately. We want answers, solutions, results, and certainty. And we certainly don't like waiting for it… Especially when we don't know how long the wait will last. To me, that's part of what makes this parable so interesting.
All ten bridesmaids are waiting for the same bridegroom. All ten expect to participate in the celebration. And all ten fall asleep while they wait. Notice that. Even the wise prepared ones fall asleep… So perhaps Jesus isn't telling us that we must stay awake every minute, never get tired, never become discouraged, or never lose sight of what's happening around us.
The difference between the wise and foolish bridesmaids isn't that some got tired and others didn't. The difference is that some were prepared for the long wait, and others weren't. That made me think... what does it mean to be prepared while we’re waiting?
Jonathan Tobias, in a recent reflection on this parable, makes an interesting observation. He says that we spend a great deal of time trying to figure out what the oil represents. Is it faith? Is it Good works? Is it the Holy Spirit? Is it Perseverance?
Matthew never actually tells us. Perhaps we're so busy trying to figure out what the oil symbolizes that we miss the whole point of the story.
The bridegroom is delayed. And during that delay, things happen… life happens. People make choices. People can care for one another, or they can turn away. Relationships are either nurtured or neglected. We either live out the love we've received from God, or we become distracted by everything else.
The delay reveals something about us. And I think that's worth paying attention to. Because Jesus isn't telling this story to people outside his group of followers. All ten bridesmaids are part of the wedding party. They're all waiting for the bridegroom. This is a story directed at his followers. And in turn, this is a story directed at the church today. It's a reminder that simply showing up isn't the same thing as being prepared to participate in what God is doing.
And that brings us to the heart of Jesus’ parable. What are we doing while we wait? We live in a world that gives us plenty of reasons to become discouraged… to get sidetracked by everything around us. We see conflicts happening around the world, disagreements that continue to divide us, and people facing uncertainty about the future. Families are dealing with financial pressures, personal challenges, and concerns about what lies ahead. And sometimes, it can be difficult to know how to respond or where to even begin.
It can feel as though the world is waiting for something to change. We wait for peace... We wait for justice... We wait for people to find common ground. We wait for someone to do something to calm the chaos. And while we wait, we either become overwhelmed or simply turn away. We can become so focused on the darkness around us that we forget we're called to carry light into it.
That's where I think this Gospel speaks to us very clearly. Jesus isn't asking us to sit around worrying and trying to figure out when he's coming back. He's asking us to live as people who believe that the Kingdom of God is already breaking into the world. The Kingdom is both already here and not yet fully realized.
We see glimpses of it all around us… We see it when someone stands up for someone who has been pushed aside. We see it whenever someone chooses empathy over hate, generosity over greed, or welcome over exclusion. We see it when a hungry person is fed and when a stranger is welcomed. These aren't simply nice things to do. They are signs of God's Kingdom. And they are part of the work Jesus has entrusted to us.
We are invited to live differently because of the love we've received. We are invited to be people who bring healing to places where there is hurt and despair; we are called to be the light where there is darkness. And that's what it means to be prepared while we wait…
to keep our lamps burning. The challenge is that it’s easy to be distracted while we wait. We can get caught up in the routines of church life, making sure the services happen, the programs run, and the calendar stays full. Those things matter. But they aren't the whole point.
We can become so concerned with maintaining the institution that we forget the people the Church is called to serve. We can spend so much time talking about welcoming everyone that we forget to notice the person standing at the door. We can talk about loving our neighbors while avoiding the neighbor who is difficult to love. And we can become so focused on what we believe about the Kingdom of God that we forget to live as though we actually believe it.
The bridesmaids remind us that preparation isn't something we do once and then forget about. It's something we cultivate over time. It's found in the ordinary decisions we make every day... how we treat one another, how we respond to someone in need, how willing we are to forgive, how we use the gifts God has given us, and whether we make room for people who might otherwise be overlooked.
And there's something else worth noticing about Jesus’ parable. The five wise bridesmaids aren't particularly impressive. They aren't doing anything extraordinary. They're simply prepared to continue doing what they came to do. Perhaps that's an important reminder for us.
Faithfulness isn't always dramatic. Most of the time, it's found in the simple, ordinary things we do, day after day. These are the things that keep the light burning. And perhaps we need to remind ourselves that we don't have to do everything. We don't have to fix the whole world. We don't have to solve every problem or have an answer to every difficult question. But we do have to be faithful with what God has placed in front of us.
So, what does it mean for us to wait for the bridegroom? It certainly doesn't mean living in fear or constantly worrying about whether we're ready for the end of the world. It means living with our eyes wide open. It means recognizing that Christ is already present among us in the people we encounter... in the opportunities to serve... and in the moments when we are invited to show God's love.
It means not postponing the work of the Kingdom until some future day. We don't have to wait for Jesus to return before we begin loving our neighbors. We don't have to wait for the world to become peaceful before we work for peace. We don't have to wait until we have everything figured out before we offer compassion, forgiveness, and grace. The work is already before us.
I think that might be the greatest challenge of this parable... not simply to ask whether we'll be ready when Jesus comes, but whether we're ready to meet Christ in the people and circumstances right in front of us today. The bridegroom may be late, but that doesn't mean nothing is happening. God is at work in this world. And we have been invited to be part of that work.
So, as we move even closer to the Advent season, and as the world around us begins its urgent rush toward Christmas, perhaps we can resist the temptation to hurry through this season. Perhaps we can slow down long enough to pay attention. To notice where God is already at work... To recognize where our neighbors need us... To make room for grace, generosity, and love. And to keep our lamps burning.
Because the question isn't simply whether we are waiting for Christ. The question is, while we wait, are we living in a way that reflects the love of Christ?
The bridegroom will come. We don't know when. But we know what we have been called to do in the meantime. So let us continue to prepare ourselves… To be ready, not by worrying about tomorrow, but by faithfully living the Gospel in our lives, today.




